The Impossible Woman
Are you meant to have it all, do it all, and be all to everyone but find that you are exhausted? Are you spinning out of control without realising, missing appointments, or can't remember small tasks?
WELCOME TO THE IMPOSSIBLE WOMAN…
I take note of my own life, where just recently, I finished work at 4:30 pm. I had to pick up my daughter from school on the way home. I wanted to make something healthy and hearty for dinner [potato and leek soup.] I raced into the kitchen to peel potatoes and cut up leeks. In the process of cooking and blending the soup, I made a complete mess and left the house with zero minutes to spare to get to my yoga class on time at 6 pm.
After yoga, I went to dinner with some very special friends that I meet up with only once a month. When I got home it was about 9 pm and I had to get back up at 5 am to do it all again.
It's hectic, it's crazy and sometimes it feels like I am stuck in a tornado. I cannot see a way to change it. This is just how my life is because yes, I want it all AND I want to do it all.
So, how do I cope? How do I prevent burnout?
1. Don't sweat the small stuff
Yes, the kitchen was still a mess when I got home and no I did not clean it. Well not completely.
2. Practice gratitude
I was grateful that I had made a beautiful dinner.
I was grateful that I gave myself time to nourish my mind and body by doing yoga
I was grateful that I had a wonderful dinner with my friends.
3. Be present
Even though I went quickly from one task to another I tried to remain present in each of them. For example, while I was doing yoga I was not thinking about the mess I had left behind or the dinner that was coming up that I was most likely going to be late to.
4. Go to bed early and get up early
While this might not be for everyone, I start my day early, before the chaos. I wake up refreshed and have some alone time to process yesterday and the day ahead. In the mornings I might do an activity for myself such as journaling or going to the gym or even just enjoy a long shower after a slow cup of coffee.
5. Take time out
Recognise when you need a break and take time out. It’s ok to say no.